What is Defensiveness?   While not quite as damaging to a relationship as contempt, defensiveness gives it a run for it’s money as one of the top four negative communication styles Dr. John Gottman has found contributes to divorce.   He calls these the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse.  Let’s start with a good operating…

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What is Stonewalling?   While not quite as damaging to a relationship as contempt, stonewalling gives it a run for it’s money as one of the top four negative communication styles Dr. John Gottman has found contributes to divorce.   He calls these the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse.  Let’s start with a good operating…

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What is Criticism?   While not quite as damaging to a relationship as contempt, criticism gives it a run for it’s money as one of the top four negative communication styles Dr. John Gottman has found contributes to divorce.   He calls these the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse.  Let’s start with a good operating…

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What is Contempt?   One of the main things you should know about contempt is that it is the #1 predictor of divorce, according to marriage research guru Dr. John Gottman.  Contempt is a way of communicating the conveys disgust, disrespect, and superiority. If you’ve engaged in (hey, none of us are perfect!) or experienced…

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ROAR : Skill for Anxiety and Panic Attacks

The words panic or anxiety attacks can instantly trigger one’s heart rate. It is often hard to know as well as be able to deal with the feeling of a panic attack coming on or occurring. We’ve been using an acronym we learned about a while ago for our clients experiencing these attacks and it…

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