Archive for September 2019
Defensiveness
What is Defensiveness? While not quite as damaging to a relationship as contempt, defensiveness gives it a run for it’s money as one of the top four negative communication styles Dr. John Gottman has found contributes to divorce. He calls these the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Let’s start with a good operating…
Read MoreStonewalling
What is Stonewalling? While not quite as damaging to a relationship as contempt, stonewalling gives it a run for it’s money as one of the top four negative communication styles Dr. John Gottman has found contributes to divorce. He calls these the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Let’s start with a good operating…
Read MoreCriticism
What is Criticism? While not quite as damaging to a relationship as contempt, criticism gives it a run for it’s money as one of the top four negative communication styles Dr. John Gottman has found contributes to divorce. He calls these the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Let’s start with a good operating…
Read MoreContempt
What is Contempt? One of the main things you should know about contempt is that it is the #1 predictor of divorce, according to marriage research guru Dr. John Gottman. Contempt is a way of communicating the conveys disgust, disrespect, and superiority. If you’ve engaged in (hey, none of us are perfect!) or experienced…
Read MoreROAR : Skill for Anxiety and Panic Attacks
The words panic or anxiety attacks can instantly trigger one’s heart rate. It is often hard to know as well as be able to deal with the feeling of a panic attack coming on or occurring. We’ve been using an acronym we learned about a while ago for our clients experiencing these attacks and it…
Read MoreUnmet Expectations: The Truth About What Goes Wrong in Relationships
When I was in graduate school, we had the opportunity to have several therapists in the community speak to us about their specialty. One such opportunity presented itself by way of a field trip to a couple’s therapist office. He asked our whole class, “what do you think is the number one reason couples end…
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