Contempt
What is Contempt? One of the main things you should know about contempt is that it is the #1 predictor of divorce, according to marriage research guru Dr. John Gottman. Contempt is a way of communicating the conveys disgust, disrespect, and superiority. If you’ve engaged in (hey, none of us are perfect!) or experienced…
ROAR : Skill for Anxiety and Panic Attacks
The words panic or anxiety attacks can instantly trigger one’s heart rate. It is often hard to knowas well as be able to deal with the feeling of a panic attack coming on or occurring. We’ve beenusing an acronym we learned about a while ago for our clients experiencing these attacks and itis called ROAR.…
Unmet Expectations: The Truth About What Goes Wrong in Relationships
When I was in graduate school, we had the opportunity to have several therapists in the community speak to us about their specialty. One such opportunity presented itself by way of a field trip to a couple’s therapist office. He asked our whole class, “what do you think is the number one reason couples end…
Tips for Maintaining Eating Disorder Recovery When Going Back to School
Trying to maintain or continue to work on eating disorder recovery when going back to school is more difficult than it may seem! We often see students go back to school where it’s more difficult to eat regularly because lunch may be at 10am or they may not be allowed to eat during class and…
Tips for Creating Boundaries AND Keeping a Relationship Strong
We talk about boundaries a lot in therapy. Many clients completely shy away from them because it feels like conflict or confrontation and others are maybe engaged in more rigid boundaries. Either way, not having flexible boundaries can sometimes really impact a friendship or relationship negatively. Let’s look at a couple of examples: Rigid…
Relationship Status with Social Media: It’s Complicated
I often get asked by clients if I think they should delete their social media accounts. I try reserve giving direct advice for things that pose a serious and imminent danger to the lives of my clients, so my response varies from “it depends” to “yes and no” to “what are your thoughts on that”…
3 Things Your Wife Wants To Hear You Say
Do you ever feel at a loss for what to say around your wife? Maybe you are aware she’s really upset, but she’s not talking to you and can hardly make eye contact or be in the same room. Now sometimes people just need some time to cool off a bit. But other times this…
Perfectionism – How Fear, Anxiety and Need for Control May Be Getting In The Way of Our Values
Have you ever gone into a job interview and been asked the question “tell me about your biggest weakness?” A lot of people will strategically answer this question saying they are perfectionists, often thinking this is an “acceptable weakness” in the workplace, so to speak. And maybe it is! At Harmony Therapy Group, we…
Body Image – Not Just a Girl Thing
Body Image in Men and Boys We’ve most likely become accustomed to how girls and women experience their bodies, but we could use a lot more dialogue about how body image in men and boys is also affected. Marketing Messages Take Barbie and GI Joe, for example. We’ve probably all heard how…